You know, I think silly is really underrated. I mean, we can all get just a little too serious sometimes. I struggle, and have always done so, with getting all kinds of stressed out over just about anything. My mother will be the first to back me up on that one, I know! Given my predisposition to blow stuff out of proportion, I have to say that being a mom myself, especially to a special needs child, has helped me put things into perspective. I question my parenting skills daily, but one thing I know for sure is that I have had to seriously learn to “let things go” over the past 10 years.
I have found lately, while scrolling through Pinterest, that I get a lot of Pins related to the stress of being a special needs parent. Many compare it to that of a combat veteran. I don’t know about that…but I do know it is hard. For self-preservation, I try to read as few of them as possible, realizing I don’t need anyone to tell me what I already know. Every now and then though one will catch my eye. This one did:
Yes indeed, she is brave. And strong. And thank God…funny!! As Brad likes to say, both of our girls have “acres” of personality! I marvel at Kimberly’s ability to light up with silliness and erase the burdens we let ourselves get so mired down with. We certainly can’t ignore the obvious areas we have to work hard on, hence the Pins I also save related to feeding disorders, dyspraxia, sensory processing disorder, sleep problems, learning difficulties, etc etc. All in all though, the take home for me…SHE is the one with the biggest struggles, not me. Watching her navigate it all with love and good humor (for the most part) strengthens me daily.
The dental surgery we suffered through last Friday was long, complicated, and unfortunately will be part of an on-going process…but today I can hear her outside, through the window, playing, laughing, and squealing with delight. Her face is still swollen, and she still can’t really eat solid food for the pain, but there she goes…loving life!
One thing parents of developmentally delayed children all know, is that you have your own special set of milestones that can’t be found in any book. The one we have most recently reached and I am excited about it “pretend play” and one of my favorite things…DRESS UP! Kimberly’s Aide and Virginia spend countless hours with her creating fun, pretend worlds and she has learned to participate in a way that is new and super exciting!
So there you are, it’s all in how you frame it, right? Get excited about that good stuff…weather the bad, and find joy where you can!