With all that we face on a daily basis, whether it be our own challenges, those of someone we love, or both…the words below ring so true. While living life with special needs or with someone else with special needs, the moment can get lost.
These are the days now that we must savour
And we must enjoy as we can
These are the days that will last forever
You’ve got to hold them in your heart.
Van Morrison, “These are the Days”
It is all too easy to get stuck in the “before” or the “after”…some days I find myself wishing for the days when it was all simpler; while other days I worry over the what the future holds. True happiness though is only right here, right now.
I love watching my mom with Kimberly. They have a way. A way of sharing special moments without the baggage I often bring. Many times I have walked into the room to see mom holding her, singing a song, eyes closed, just soaking it all in.
Recently I read a post at Love That Max listing the many reasons why special needs moms shouldn’t feel guilty (even though we do). It rang so true for me, I often get trapped in this vicious cycle. My goal is to improve though. Take a page from my momma’s book and just be there, wholly in the moment.
The future comes whether we want it to or not. We can’t beat ourselves up over how much therapy we miss over the summer, whether or not letting them watch the iPad a little too much is causing some kind of permanent damage, or if all of this is because of something we did (the greatest fear ever)…
My mom has taught me many things over the years, some lessons came much easier than others, but I know in my heart this is a big one. This is one that will let me enjoy what I have, while I have it. These are the days…